Today I want to talk about a dirty word…Neglect. Specifically I want to talk about neglect and the affects on the human pschy.
Neglect comes in some many different forms in my point of view. You can neglect your front yard, letting that grass grow until it is 2 feet high or growing that awesome field of dandy lions that now one but the bees like. You can neglect to do your homework. You can neglect to wash yourself and have all your co-workers neglecting you because of it… You can neglect your health care blog and not post anything in like a month…. ah hem…I am talking to you Sam…oh right, that’s me. Stop talking to me …Me.
Back on track here…Neglect is generally never a positive thing, actually I can’t think of one certain time when the accurate use of the word neglect has any truly positive meaning. Neglect is almost always used in the same vernacular as abuse. “He abused his body”…. or She abused her child…. could easily have used neglected in those statements. Anyway neglecting something almost always has a negative impact on your mind, your attitude or your way of life. Think about it. Coming home to a neglected yard full of weeds has to have an impact on your mood or your self worth. I know it stresses me out to no end to see a disaster of a front yard (i pretend not to see my back yard for it is way worse ALL the time). Hell when I look at my neighbors disastrous attempt to ‘pretty’ up her yard it drives me nuts, I mean pinwheels? Really? It looks like a gingerbread house scene…seriously!
Anyway i haven’t even touched on neglect when it comes in direct human to human form. Child neglect. Spouse Neglect. Family Neglect. I don’t have the energy today to go into how damaging that is to the human spirit. What i do want to touch on though is how to avoid that neglect.
Get your sh*t together!
The best thing i have ever done was to get my stuff together. I listened to stories of people that are successful and that make millions and they all say you have to get your shit together and organized yourself. Create goals. Write things down on paper and hold yourself accountable to them. Stop the neglect
So that’t what i have done and i can’t tell you how awesome it feels to at least feel organized and have a list of accomplishments by days end. I strongly suggest everyone out there do this and start to kick some but yourself. Make a list. take a class. learn to paint take a karate lesson and stop the neglect of yourself and your happiness.
How many times have you said that? “I just don’t like it anymore’. ….. or “I am bored of the same old thing”
I used to say this. like once a month or so with my old gyms. I would go, usually by myself and do a ‘workout’. You know the kind, the kind where you pick up a few weights do a bit of work then walk around and check out what everyone else is doing. You may go back and do another set but you don’t push yourself. Or may be you feel like ‘i will just do a little cardio today’ and you jump up on the treadmill and run at about two while watching Oprah make another billion dollars on TV.
I had had enough. I wasn’t going to keep giving some big corporation my 40$ a month anymore for something i just wasn’t doing anyway. So then I went home and got fat. Brilliant. But i still wasn’t going to give them my money. Personal training? 100 for a few sessions to have some muscle head stand over top of me, then go sit and play on his iPhone? I don’t think so.
So I realized that i obviously needed some exercise but also needed some motivation while i was there. So i joined this gym that is called combine. It combines (brilliant i know!) Cross-fit and Fit into your workouts. All classes are instructor lead so the motivation and no fucking around is there. I know a lot of people shit on Cross-fit but i don’t, and even if you do this place is different. They tell you to pick a weight you are comfortable with, instead of the absolute heaviest you can lift. Anyway the transformation has been awesome lost 30 pounds, made lots of friends and still love it after three years. Never bored.
My son is sick and that means I am exhausted . Not much of a post happening here.
But why is he sick? Germs i guess. He is a tough little guy but germs get us all down from time to time. But this is a health blog you say! tell me how to be healthy! Exercise and healthy food. shocking I know! get out and get at it honey bunch.
But I hate Exercise
we all hate exercise that is exercise. The trick is to find something that will burn up some calories that you don’t hate, maybe even that you love. Jogging. Cross fit. baseball. lawn bowling. Ok lawn bowling may not be the best form of exercise but Betty the lawn bowler may send you home with an awesome home made pie if you play your cards right. That Betty, she is a real peach :)
Anyway I know this was not profound and not long but you know what? It’s my blog and i am tired and cranky (obviously) not even Betty’s pie is cheering me up.
I am a summer guy. Love it. Loved winter when i was a kid also but now I am all about the warms rays. I just love how it brings people out of their homes and into the neighbourhood, ,or the park or the campground.
My kids will finally go outside again. I mean they will play in the snow form time to time but it never lasts to long because it’s too dam cold. And who can blame them for wanting to come back inside? I can’t! May be to much of me has been handed over to them, but as a kid i was always outside living it up – no matter the weather. Anyway enough of this old man talk, what i really wanted to talk about is my new travel trailer from Huron RV ….oh did i mention i like camping??
What? What the hell does that mean you crazy man Sam? Color therapy?
I know right? It sounds so weird, like some hippy new-old wave of tree hugging way to zone out of the world for a little piece and quiet. And may be it is. But then again may be it isn’t
ENOUGH ALREADY. WHAT IS IT?
I have learnt a lot about colour therapy — the effects of color on the human mind and spirit and mood. Ever heard of a mood ring? of course you have, you are not living under a rock (there is no WiFi under a rock) and you were likely a child at one time that got your poor sap of a parent to put a quarter into a gum ball machine and to get you the ring that changed colors with your mood. Well I am not certain if those rings actually work but I am certain through my research that paint colors, specifically colors of the walls in the rooms in your house can dramatically effect the moods and energy levels in individuals. Now they won’t have the same level of effect on all individuals but there is an effect.
There are 1000’s of studies out there to this affect. All these studies have found that differing colors have differing effects and that certain colors are best used in certain settings or situations (think different rooms in the house for my arguments sake) Here are just a few colors and their attributes
Calming effects for the mind and the body.
Good for regular meditation and prayer.
Enhances purpose and self esteem.
Heightens our awareness and helps us to give of our very best.
Use it in :
Entry areas to clinics and hospitals
Helps to open up our intuition about our surroundings
The colour of divine knowledge and the higher mind.
Use it in:
more ‘quiet’ places
Treatment rooms in hospitals or clinics
Black used with another colour enhances the energy of that second colour
Black gives us the sense of space for reflection on oneself
Use it in:
well no where really as a single color. but use it everywhere to enhance other colours.
my daughter wanted to paint her room fire engine red. what does this say about her personality? I am not to sure.
So i interviewed a painting company about some of the more ‘spiritual’ works they have done for clients. I had to ask some weird questions (or so i thought) but turns out that most painters are artists at heart and really understand this whole hippy painting color world. One company i talked with does such awesome work i had to mention them here. Creative Trends Painting has been doing commercial and residential painting for years and specialize in custom artwork and murals. They indicated it is not a weird request to have a client ask for a specific mural to be painted on their wall so the client can just sit in front of it and meditate. Makes a lot of sense. As the world keeps moving faster and faster it would be pretty cool to have a special spot to just sit and think (or not think) about anything.
I have the best kids in the world. Seriously it has been certified. Look into it. They are mine and you are jealous. Well may be not, but i still have the best
One of the reasons is that I try to instil confidence and self esteem into my kids through sport. Any sport. As I wrote before my son is really into hockey right now. I love how he can’t wait to meet up with his team mates and the high fives and the
kids loving the game
tom foolery that goes with young boys hanging out. It all works toward mental well being in my book .
Now jumping onto teams and being part of a crowd comes easy for my son, my daughter makes friends easily but needs to be pushed into the situation a bit more. This beautiful creature has so much to offer and pours her heart out to other kids which sometimes leaves her vulnerable to the nefarious kids in a bunch. And there are some. This is my blog and i don’t have to be politically correct about any of that shit!
SO WHAT TO DO?
I started her playing soccer and she liked it but didn’t love it. She played for a few years, made friends easy but there was no passion for the game so when it came time to register she said she didn’t want to play. No problem from pops, I believe in pushing my kids into things because of the natural unknown from them and the natural fear they have but I definitely don’t believe in making them do something they already know about, and don’t want to do.
Right beside my gym that I take them too is a small Karate, BJJ Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and other Martial Arts Studio . I almost joking said to her why don’t you try Karate out, and surprisingly she said yes! Looking back I shouldn’t have been too surprised as she loves dance and tumbling and structure so it was almost a natural, albeit weird, fit.
So I love to golf. I mean I absolutely love it. Even when golf hates me I love it. Do you think I am sick because of that?
Cures to My Sickness
I wouldn’t blame you if you thought I was sick because of my demented idea of fun. Golf is punishing. It literally makes the smartest person in the world look like an idiot. Repeatedly.
golfing is dumb!
But I have to tell you it is therapeutic. Not only is it good physical exercise but I find the golf course to be an excellent place to clear your mind of the minutia of the everyday routine. It’s frustrating….and relaxing…all rolled into one. I call it my golf therapy.
How it Saved Me.
A few years ago I hurt my back, real bad. 2 ruptured discs. It sucked. What was worse was that it happened at the beginning of summer and I couldn’t golf. I literally moped around my house (when I could walk) and was a miserable person to be around. I thought I was so miserable because of the excruciating pain I was in but after a while I realized there was way more to it then that. I had no mental outlet to let some steam off. I couldn’t get out somewhere for the day to clear my mind and reset. All I wanted to do was get better quick so i could get a few rounds in. The doctors wanted to operate. They said it would fuse my spine together and i wouldn’t be able to rotate my neck. How the hell was i going to swing a golf club? No way man. No surgery for this cat.
SO WHAT NOW?
No surgery, I can tell you that. So what then? Just sit around an be pissy the rest of my life? Nope. I said i will heal the old fashioned way with a good exercise routine and diet. And I did. I got myself into the best shape of my life and got back to the golf course the next summer. My back got back (that sounds weird) to about 95 percent and I have no complaints. Except for my golf game.
So not surprisingly being a golf nut I am a golf info junkie. I read a lot about golf, watch you tub and instructional videos and follow blogs like crazy. I love this relatively new blog at Thirteen Under Golf, the guy really knows his stuff. If you are into golf you gott check it out.
And on the lighter side check out this YouTube video. Freaking funny
So the truck is packed. It’s march break. Let’s get to my sons last hockey tournament of the year in some town called London. No not that London. London Ontario.
Seems like a quaint enough little city. Everywhere we stopped people were friendly (a Canadian thing i guess) and willing to help out with directions and whatnot. Not that I ever get lost. Ever. ‘Turned around’ every now and then but that’s it. Anyway back to the story. My son loves hockey. Adores it. Me? Well yeah i love it also, always have, and it makes me extremely happy that my son has taken to it just like i did as a child. Hockey is so much more than just a game on ice. It is team building. It is responsibility. It is learning processes and systems. It is taking criticism and using it to make your game and yourself better. It’s exercise! This is suppose to be a blog that is loosely tied to health care isn’t it?
Anyway, where was I? oh right, London. So in between games we leave the arena to do a little exploring around the city and end up at park called Springbank. beautiful spot to get out and do some stretching and chase some giant Canadian Geese around. Obviously it was mild out, I am not into the great white north freezing temperatures.
So after our jaunt it was time to get back to the arena and wouldn’t you know it the truck has flat tire! Ridiculous! nothing worse than being away from home and having to deal with a mechanical issue or something like that. Anyway I had to call a tow truck and get towed to a service centre where luckily they were able to put a plug in the tire and get us on our way. My son of course was freaking out about possibly missing the game, but calm cool dad took care of things again so its all good. Anyway this towing company and the people at the service place were so dam nice that I thought I would have to write about this experience here.
DID HE WIN?
For those of you wondering, Canadians are good at hockey. My Son’s team didn’t win but we had one hell of a good time up there!
Hello everyone welcome to my new blog called Ashflat Health Care and Rehab. The name is a mouth full I know, but it’s also mostly a personal play on words so stop asking me about it. Seriously stop. This is my first post and I am already a bit annoyed at you internet.
So I just wanted to lay out the feel of what I am hoping to create here on this blog. I want to talk about different health issues and ways that I have found to overcome them. Most things I am going to be talking about I have personally experienced or have had family or friends experience them, which in turn of course, effects me in some way shape or form.
I am still and always have been a very actively sports minded person. I have established many injuries through sports, and also healed many injuries through sports. There is just something about working off a lot of stress at the gym, or spending 6 hours on a golf course to think calmly about things that has always seemed to help me keep a balance between body and mind. So I will be talking about that. Never heard of golf therapy? Well you will . I also want to explore areas like art therapy and the effects of colors on the mood, i have recently read a few awesome eye opening articles about this. I want to talk about time spent with family doing things like fishing and camping and just laying around talking. I will also touch on things like medicines and treatments to help things like skin conditions and how a simple change in appearance can make or break your day.
There will be much much more coming, I hope you find it interesting and if not read me to put you to sleep. See I have already cured your insomnia !
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